How to Love Yourself?

This is a question that many people tend to ignore. How to love yourself? It’s not something that you can habitually attain, but just like everything and anything else, you must learn to do it.

Loving yourself isn’t as hard as you think it is. It’s not like you have to stay hours in the gym just to get that perfect figure or spend hours in the kitchen to perfect that dish. No, all it takes is a simple mindset and some tweaks in your daily life that will make you love yourself no matter what people say.

  1. Always set an Inspiring Goal – Because without goals, you won’t have the motivation or purpose to live an enjoyable and successful life. You’ll always end up feeling down and we can’t have that kind of negative energy if we want to live a good and happy life. Therefore, always set an inspiring goal such as; ‘Learning how to Drive’, or, ‘Publishing a Poetry Book’, or, ‘Becoming a successful Blogger/Vlogger,’ These kinds of goals will set you apart from the rest of your family and friends and you will also be thrilled to continue to pursue your dreams.
  2. Ask yourself from time to time; What do you love about yourself? Surely, there must be something that you love about yourself? For example, your nose. You might have a pretty nose, or your face, your eyes or even your arms or booty. Perhaps, there’s something about your nature that you love? You might be kind, caring, supportive, a good listener. It can be anything but it’s up to you to find out what it is that you love about yourself? Always ask this question at the beginning or end of the day so that you can strive to do more good and be someone’s perfect role model.
  3. It’s now time to Thank Your Body because unlike many other who are suffering out there, you don’t have cancer or other illnesses that makes you look sick (May God Heal them too) You’re healthy, you’re beautiful and even if you don’t have abs or toned arms and legs, your body is normal and you’re still fitting into your favorite dresses, so that’s something to be thankful of. This year too, don’t forget to take care of your body because if you become lazy in that, then your entire year might go down the hill. The main gear of our life is indeed our body. If we struggle to keep it healthy and fit, our lives will turn out to be more independent, confident and wonderful!
  4. Always Forgive Yourself because we aren’t AI robots (well, AI too makes mistakes sometimes) but we’re human beings and we make mistakes. We’re not perfect; no matter how clean your house is or how good you’re in math. We all made/make mistakes but what will give us the chance to continue with our life is if we forgive and tell ourselves that life is a series of ups and downs and we must learn to embrace our mistakes and reset our lives every time we fall back down. We can’t just stop playing a game just because we aren’t able to fight the big boss at the end, right? No, we continue because we had come a long way and turning back now would be like giving up. So, we fight the villain until we’ve won and we actually do win in the end; somehow…but we do.
  5. Last but not the least, Stop Comparing Yourself to others. We’re all different in our own ways. Again, we’re not robots, we’re human beings and we come in all shapes and sizes. If you keep on comparing yourself to others, you won’t be able to achieve anything because you’re automatically telling yourself that ‘that guy/girl is better than me and I won’t be able to do it.’ See, that’s so much pessimism right there! Just throw that thought out of your mind and focus on yourself. Focus on your goals and see how fast you’ll drive the car to success or to your desired goals/dreams.

I hope these 5 simple tips will help you start the new year with much strength and confidence. Don’t worry, everything will be alright. We all have a long way to go but we have to start somewhere, don’t we? Let’s not get busy with what the world wants or thinks, let’s focus on what we want and let’s strive to be happy for ourselves.

Until then,

Peace neighbors,

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10 Quotes that will raise your Confidence

Do you ever just feel as if you’re no good? As if the world doesn’t understand you? Well, you’re not alone. 

We all feel that way sometimes. Some more often than others. But we can’t let that stop us, can we? We can’t let our lack of confidence stop us from achieving our dreams. We must fight the fear in us, raise our head and walk tall on this earth. Not proudly but confidently. It’s what matters the most. What doesn’t matter and what you shouldn’t care about is other people’s thoughts. Their thoughts will only bring you down and you don’t want that.You want to win so you better read these quotes which helped me become confident or at least gave me an insight and a head start. 


Quote 1: People will judge you no matter what you do. Might as well do what your heart is telling you to. 


Quote 2: Self-Confidence is the best outfit. Rock it and own it.


Quote 3: Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful without needing someone to tell you.


Quote 4: Own who you are.


Quote 5: Confidence has no competition.


Quote 6: Don’t regret the past. Just learn from it. 


Quote 7: It’s okay not to have everything figured out. 


Quote 8: Don’t ignore your own potential.


Quote 9: The sooner you start believing in yourself, the sooner you’ll start seeing the results. 


Quote 10: Inhale confidence, exhale doubt. 


Do not let anyone crush you or break you. You’re on your own and remember, you don’t need anyone else but you. So you must be strong, you must keep on fighting and getting up no matter how many times you fail or fall.


You must be like an Avenger! 

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Day of Arafah

Abu Qatada al-Ansari narrated that Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) was asked about fasting on the day of Arafah, whereupon he said: “It expiates the sins of the preceding year and the coming year.”

In Sahih Muslim, it was narrated from Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) that Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no day on which Allah frees more people from the Fire than the Day of Arafah. He comes close and expresses His fulfillment to the Angels, saying, “What do these people want?”

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The best of Dua is Dua of the Day of Arafah, and the best of what I and the Prophets before me have said is: Laa Ilaahaa illall laahu-wah dahu laa shareeka lahu-lahul mulku-wa lahul hamdu- wa huwa alaa kulli shayin kadeer.
[None has the right to be worshipped but Allah alone, Who has no partners. His is the dominion and His is the praise, He has power over all things – Tirmidhi]

The Day of Arafah falls on the 9th day of Dhul al-Hijjah of the lunar Islamic calendar. At dawn of this day, Muslim pilgrims make their way from Mina to a nearby hillside called Mount Arafah. It was from this site that our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) gave his farewell sermon in the final year of his life.

Allah, the Most High and Exalted says in Surah al Maa’idah 5:3,

“This day I have perfected for you your religion and completed My favor upon you and have approved for you Islam as your religion.”

Imam Ibn Kathir in his tafsir says,

“Imam Ahmad recorded that Tariq bin Shihab said, “A Jewish man said to Umar bin Al-Khattab, ‘O Leader of the Believers! There is a verse in your Book which is read by all of you (Muslims). And had it been revealed to us, we would have taken that day (on which it was revealed) as a day of celebration.’
Umar bin Al-Khattab asked, ‘Which is that verse?’. The Jew replied,
‘This day I have perfected for you your religion and completed My favor upon you and have approved for you Islam as your religion.’
Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) replied, ‘By Allah! I know when and where this verse was revealed to Allah’s Messenger. It was the evening on the Day of Arafah on a Friday.”

The Day of Arafah is also significant because Allah swore by this Day in Surah al-Burooj, 85:1-3:
“By the sky containing great stars. And (by) the promised Day. And (by) the witness and what is witnessed.”

Allah, the Most High and Exalted swears by nothing except that which is great and mighty! So, the Day of Arafah is of great significance.

It was reported from Abu Hurayrah (May Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“The promised day is the Day of Ressurection, the witnessed day is the Day of Arafah, and the witnessing day if Friday” – Tirmidhi

It is Sunnah to recite the Takbeer (Allahu Akbar – Allah is the most Great),
Tahmeed (Alhamdulillah – All Praise are Allah’s),
and Tahleel (Subhan Allah – Glorified is Allah), during the 10 Days of Dhul-al Hijjah.This is the least of act of worship that a Muslim can do during these days.

Ibn Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “There is no day more honorable in Allah’s sight and no acts more beloved therin to Allah than those in these ten days. So say tahleel, takbeer, and tahmid a lot (on those days).”– Ahmad

Recite and revive your relationship with the Quran, do more good deeds, pray nawafil prayers, fast, pray Tahajjud and give in charity because the Messenger of Allah (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “No good deeds done on other days are superior to those done on these days.”, The Companions asked, “O Messenger of Allah, not even Jihad in the Way of Allah?”, He said, “Not even Jihad save for the man who puts his life and wealth for Allah’s sake and returns with neither of them.”

[Note- Only those who aren’t able to perform Hajj have to fast, Insha Allah.]

Last but not the least, offer your Qurbani or (Udhhiya). The sacrifice of a livestock animal during Eid Al-Adhaa.

Jaabir, (May Allah be pleased with him) said, “I prayed on Eid Al-Adhaa with the Messenger of Allah (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) and when he finished (the prayer), he was brought one ram, and he sacrificed it. He said, ‘In the Name of Allah, Allah is Most Great. This is on behalf of myself, my family members and any of my Ummah who did not offer a sacrifice.”

 

May Allah, The Most High, the Exalted and The Most Loving, give us a chance to be among those who perfrom Hajj next year. May He accept our prayers, our Dua’s and wipe away our sins. May He bestow upon us, our family, and all His believing slaves, His Mercy and Blessings and May Allah, Who loves to pardon, and Who loves us, Who listens to our problems, Who hears our invocations and Who wants us to be with Him in Jannah, keep us guided in the right path. May Allah, our Portector and our Guardian, protect us from the evil whisperings of the Shayateen and May He raise our ranks in Jannah.

Ameen, Ya Rabbul Aalameen.

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